Between feedback and observation, the latter may work better. The same goes for between making an observation and keeping your own counsel, sometimes 😄
Any tips on delivering observations to someone who always assumes the intent of your observations is feedback in disguise?
The line between perception and judgement can appear very narrow, especially coming from people like myself who spent most of their life practically going out their way to sound judgemental and whose mode of speaking became habituated to it.
For example, I experienced this exasperating exchange regularly for years:
Me: (carefully delivered neutral-as-can-be observation) This curry has more salt than last time.
Them: (judgemental response) That sounds like a complaint.
Observation made, response intended to gaslight me into getting defensive.
Between feedback and observation, the latter may work better. The same goes for between making an observation and keeping your own counsel, sometimes 😄
Haha
Any tips on delivering observations to someone who always assumes the intent of your observations is feedback in disguise?
The line between perception and judgement can appear very narrow, especially coming from people like myself who spent most of their life practically going out their way to sound judgemental and whose mode of speaking became habituated to it.